Pat, I have the same problem. There are things I really love and no one else does. I do like the meat balls with the grape jelly though. Sorry about no one eating the red velvet cake or cupcakes. My nephew asked his grandmother to bake one for the Groom's cake when he was married. It is so hard to tell what people will like.
A question to you and maybe others too. You commented about a carry in meal. We would call that a potluck. Just wondering what term other people use? "Carry in" or "Potluck"?